“I would rather have one true friend than a thousand acquaintances.” Expressing a preference for genuine companionship over social popularity · Conversation, as reported in biographical reminiscence Connection Friendship Preference
“I don't believe that any woman can write poetry unless she has suffered.” Linking poetic expression with personal suffering and emotional experience · Conversation, as reported in biographical reminiscence Experience Poetry Suffering
“I have always felt that if I could only get away from Cincinnati, I could do something.” Reflecting her ambition and frustration with the limitations of her circumstances · Biographical reminiscence of Phoebe Cary Ambition Opportunity Work
“For thirty years I have gone straight to her bedside as soon as I arose in the morning, and wherever she is, I am sure she wants me now.” Expressing a lifetime of habitual devotion to her sister and faith in their continuing bond · Letter to Mrs. Croly, 1873 Devotion Family Loss
“I have lain down, and it seems, because Alice is not there, there is no reason why I should get up.” Revealing how completely her daily life had been bound up with her sister’s presence · Letter to Mrs. Croly, 1873 Companionship Grief Loss
“Alice, you have no idea what a rakish appearance you present. I’ll get you the hand-glass that you may see how you wear your cap.” A glimpse of Phoebe’s humour and affection during her sister’s final illness · A Memorial of Alice and Phoebe Cary, 1873 Affection Humour Laughter
“Alice, when she was here, always absorbed me, and she absorbed me still; I feel her constantly drawing me.” Describing the continuing presence she felt after her sister’s death · A Memorial of Alice and Phoebe Cary, 1873 Absence Attachment Grief
“It seems to me that a cord stretches from Alice’s heart to mine; nothing can hurt her that does not hurt me.” Expressing the extraordinary emotional bond between the two sisters · A Memorial of Alice and Phoebe Cary, 1873 Affection Connection Family
